Healing the Erotic Self

11/03/2026

A first-of-its-kind, four-day gathering led entirely by q***r midlife voices, igniting desire, community, and self-discovery–on our terms.

In this Q***r Midlife virtual gathering, we talk about the things that matter to us.

Day 1: Unapologetic Bodies & Q***ring Menopause
Day 2: Liberated Desire & Revolutionary Relationships
Day 3: Resourcing Midlife through Q***r Joy & Creative Becoming
Day 4: Community Care, Belonging & Our Future

ABOUT THE GATHERING
We're calling Q***r in(g) Midlife a "virtual gathering" rather than a summit because this is about more than watching presentations. We're creating space for q***r and trans people in midlife to explore, connect, and be in community.

And here's something I'm especially proud of: every single speaker is q***r and in midlife themselves. We're not just talking about these experiences. We're living them! Thanks for being such a badass q***r in midlife!

Link to register is in the comments.

10/23/2026

The revolution will not be televised...its will be EMBODIED.

NEW Limited Series PODCAST ALERT.

Decolonial Eroticism is HERE. 💜

Hosted by Dr. Zel and Mx. Queen, this podcast invites you into courageous conversations about reclaiming The Erotic as a source of power, embodied healing, collective liberation, and radical imagination. Through the lenses of somatic and erosomatic practice, s*xuality, decolonial thought, spirituality, and community care, each episode explores what it means to come home to yourself in a world that has often asked us to disconnect from ourselves, our ancestry, and our pleasure.

This podcast offers practical wisdom, embodied practices, and heartfelt conversations to support your journey towards erotic sovereignty, erotic thrivance, and erotic liberation.

Come home to yourself with us.

Follow along and listen on all platforms. Link in comments.

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10/01/2026

Being a trauma-informed therapist, I believe creating embodied safety leads to self-trust and that is how one disrupts their trauma response of disassociation.

I would recommend in this order:
1. SHIFT, A Self-Liberation Practice
2. The Art of Giving and Receiving
3. Healing the Erotic Self
4. We will Not Cancel Us
5. Healing S*x
6. Erotic Affirmations
7. Good S*x
8. Come as You Are

My self-study erotic intelligence course, The Other EQ, is now available and you can start anytime.

Enroll at Erospirituality.com/store and scroll to the bottom of the page.

Thank you for considering me as a resource!

09/21/2026

Ready for your Sessions?

New Sessions with SistaS*xologist is LIVE:
https://youtu.be/d2iPT8CI5-I

09/13/2026

You should smoke or make some tea or both and listen to it:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/meet-me-at-the-spot-where-pleasure-meets-education/id1668008747?i

Run time: 46ish minutes

I ain’t even gonna hold you-

This is one of my best interviews.
-Mx. Queen

Education Podcast · Updated Weekly · This is the space where we get real about s*x, relationships, and everything in between. I’m your host Holly Eckelberger, a long time s*xual health educator, activist, and content creator. I will be y…

09/06/2026

Join me today at noon on YouTube Live for Sessions with Sistas*xologist.

Link in comments below.

09/05/2026

Are You The Alchemist or The Oracle?

Your Erotic Archetype. Your Healing Path.

7 Lovership Archetypes. One is yours. This free quiz reveals your erotic identity and the 6-week intensive that takes it deeper. Created by Mx. Lena Queen, LCSW.

Discover your path today. Visit Loverships.com

08/05/2026

There is an intelligence your spiritual wound wants you to access.

The impact of desirability politics is not just emotional and physical, it's spiritual.

This is the disconnection q***r Black women and non-binary folks have been navigating with largely unsupported.

This is the reason Mx. Queen, LCSW, M.Ed created Healing the Erotic Self.

Caring for our spiritual wounds is not affirmingly accessed through sacred s*xuality alone because sacred s*xuality as we know it is colonized.

The Womanism Way of knowing, believing, and becoming requires not just emotional and somatic intelligence but EMBODIED INTELLIGENCE.

What's been missing is our understanding that what makes our s*xuality sacred is the ancestral reclamation of the erotic, not the Western understanding and packaging of the erotic as something only s*xual.

Our s*xuality is all of who we are. It is our entire sense of being. It is the culmination and integration of our emotions, our thoughts, beliefs, behaviors, and expression related to several attributes our humanity included our gender, who we are romantically, s*xually, and platonically attracted to, our relationship to pleasure, pain, and power and how we live in our body.

Using the Erotic Self as a decolonial bio-psycho-social, we reclaim our erotic healing narrative and erotic embodiment by empowering our Erotic Self through the decolonial reclamation of our erotic intelligence.

This is the intention of The Other EQ: Erotic Intelligence Course.

The Other EQ: Erotic Intelligence Course teaches you to actually apply the 5 Core Elements of Erotic Intelligence — rooted in Audre Lorde’s Uses of the Erotic, decolonial somatic s*xology, and the neuroscience of how healing really happens.

Move from disconnection to confidence, at your own pace. Decolonial. Trauma-informed. Q***r-affirming. Justice-centered.

Valued at $197 course, created by Mx. Lena Queen, LCSW — is now Pay What you Wish with one full year access. Link to course in comment section.

07/19/2026

Have you ever felt the words stuck in your throat right when you needed them most?

You know what you want. You can feel it in your body. But asking for it? That's a whole other thing.

Here is what I shared in the my latest newsletter, Embodied LIberation:

To heal and not just recover from exhaustion and burnout, there were 3 resources needed to reclaim, not to labor, but to reclaim not only your much-neglected desires but the capacity to admit that they are there, let alone ask for what you desire.

Those resources were your time, your capacity, and your energy.

Time is not only seconds, minutes, hours, days, and months. Time is pacing, intention, and presence. Capacity is your mental and emotional space needed to connect to my (at the time) very neglected desires. Energy is the electrical impulses my nervous system generates and responds to in response to both internal and external pressures.

With the erotic as the GPS to my embodied liberation, these resources move me into my WHOLENESS from a place of dissociation and disconnection to the erotically empowered connection to my Self, my desires, and my power. These resources reclaimed my center and my embodiment from knowing->believing->becoming- the Womanism Way.

It takes courage and intention because healing the erotic self requires both you and your relationship. Sib- we don't heal in isolation. We heal in community. WHOLENESS is both/and, not either/or. This is not simply an abundance mindset; it is how we develop a THRIVING mindset… in spite of the f*ckery of late-stage capitalism. There is MORE. So I am calling us into the Womanism Way.

Are you ready?

05/20/2026

Exhausted? Erotically disconnected? Self-neglect no more.

Your erotic energy is your spiritual energy. It's your life force. Your creative power. Your direct line to the divine.

Erotic Living is the intentional integration of erotic intelligence into daily life. It's how we move from surviving to thriving by cultivating erotic presence, intuitive embodiment, and spiritual aliveness.

It's sipping tea with reverence. Breathing into your hips between meetings. Journaling your desires unapologetically. Choosing softness over shame. The decolonial erotic healing of Erospirituality.

In just 7 days, you'll experience:
✨ A sacred space for your erotic healing
✨ Reconnection with your erotic energy
✨ Awakening of your erotic and spiritual power
✨ Integration of erotic mindfulness and authentic consent
✨ Activation of your erotic intelligence for WHOLE-self healing

This self-study course includes:
✨ Erotic education audios and guides
✨ Erospiritual rituals with somatic and erosomatic practices
✨ Self-reflection worksheets
✨ Guided meditations
✨ Digital bonuses with integration and healing resources

Centering the erotic healing of Black women and non-binary professionals who are on the frontlines of service, this healing experience guides you to reconnect to your wholeness, reclaim your emotional and mental capacity to experience pleasure, and improve your erotic confidence.

This is not just a self-care kit. It's a SELF-STUDY. A healing initiation for those ready to activate their erotic intelligence.

Your investment: $197 (one-time purchase)

Ready to choose yourself?

Enroll today. Link in comments.