31/12/2025
37 lessons from 37 years around the sun:
1. Fight Attrition at all costs - Everything erodes unless ruthlessly fought after. Skills you had feel unstoppable until you stop - then they feel foreign again.
2. Proximity is the ultimate power - hang around killers and you’ll become a killer. Hang around losers and you’ll become a loser. We like to think we dictate our reality, but in truth our reality dictates us more than we can imagine. Choose carefully.
3. Focus on what you want, not problems - momentum flows where focus goes. Stu on the negative and you reinforce it. Look at the outcome you want and the world moulds you into it.
4. Therapy is good until it isn’t - If you spend years in therapy, you are spending your time focusing on your issues and reinforcing them. Find root causes, understand them and then move on. Anything beyond that is self sabotage or pretending to be doing meaningful work when in actuality regression happens.
5. Balance is one of the worst social constructs we ever created - People who preach “balance” in life either went through extreme periods to get where they want or make excuses for being a master of nothing. You can only truly propel so many things at once and the rest have to live in maintance. Trying to be excellent at everything will lead to endless frustration and no momentum in any.
6. Cardio has been underrated for decades - fitness influencers preach that you can just walk and cut calories to lose weight. Don’t disagree but cardio makes life so much easier because it allows for eating slightly more, better heart health and more energy. I get it cardio sucks but has huge benefits, just do it.
7. Most people lose in the first round - to excel you truly have to eat glass for a really long time to break into something. Success only comes from when you are still going long, long after you got bored. Make it stick or you’ll always be hamster wheel spinning in circles with frustration.
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