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Self Reflections Self Reflections is the home of energy enhancing wellness. https://selfreflectionshea.wixsite.com/selfreflections I am an Energy Enhancing Facilitator.

I started my healing journey in 2000 when faced with a severe health issue which manifested a period of 7 weeks of silence & stillness for me. During this challenging period of my life I lost the gift of speech, something which revealed itself to me as an aspect so often take for granted by many!!! Unable to communicate with the outer world left me only one other choice - turning to the mystery of my inner world. Connecting with my higher-self, the wonderful aspect of me I had really never gotten to know before. During this period I learnt to listen to the wisdom which had laid un-noticed within, I learnt to listen to the profound silence which had all the answers I had ever seeked, I leant to trust and follow the guiding voice of my inner self. I connected with the ultimate voice of my mind my heart, my soul. I connected to the messages that had laid dormant within, the light of my multi-dimensional being - all being the first step of my spiritual journey, the step that led me to where I am today. Nothing happens in life without reason and even though we don’t always understand why things do happen, contained within every struggle, every challenge is a lesson. Is every step a soul evolution. My lesson I came to learn, was that I became aware that we are so much bigger and more powerful than our physical existence. I came to understand that we are 99.999 % energy beings, so much more than our perception of being mostly physical form. I learnt that going inward is the only way of finding true purpose and authenticity for anyone. I learnt that to be able to live a true aligned life we need to dive into the feared abyss of our so called “shadow” self. Something I also learnt is so very valuable!

… and so it was that I followed my internal guidance and landed up journeying through almost three years of intense inner work …

I faced my hidden self and admittedly it was was no walk in the park for the more I worked on self the more stuff seemed to surface. Like an onion I peeled off layer upon layer. Shedding, shifting and diving deeper I found myself on a road I had never envisioned travelling on ! During these three years I met many great teachers. Each one taught me something different, each one gifted me a new tool. Each played a very important and meaningful role in where I am today. My spiritual teachers, energy healing facilitators, mentors, Masters, loved ones & friends were the golden keys which helped me unlock the doors I encountered along my journey - they helped me unlock ‘me’ on a very deep level. They were my healing and I am eternally grateful to each and everyone one of them. Most still active in my life today others remembered always. It was not an easy road to travel but the end result has been phenomenal not only to me but to everyone I in turn work with today. This challenging time in my life was needed to help me open to my GIFTS I did not then realize I had,
(Although honestly speaking in hind sight I should have known, for my gift has been passed down through many generations, lifetimes and incarnations)

I was taught through the challenging & often difficult inner work that I was a human with an actual PURPOSE. I learnt that WE all have more reason & purpose to be than simply living a mundane life of no value. My PURPOSE in this incarnation is to heal the planet and it’s human and animal co-inhibitors. My purpose is to share my gift with many, to change polarities, to restore harmony, to shift energy, to balance & align, to teach and serve humanity & the PLANET with honor and respect and pride. My purpose I learnt is to live a life filled with integrity, authenticity and play my role in changing the world into a better place for all. And so it was that I started to put myself out there to serve as an energy healing facilitator. I started doing what I love and what universe had intended for me to do. I founded Self Reflections in 2003. I have not ever looked back, I have never stopped serving, I have never stopped growing - I
can never stop, this is my PURPOSE. Of course I have taken a few breaks here and there but my PURPOSE is to serve, and serve I have done, and serve I shall continue do. I have been truly blessed to learn in order to teach and today I find it is my turn to rejoice through the gratification of the work that I do. It is my turn to help others who search for their own authenticity and purpose. I rejoice in gratitude when I see the fruits of my work unravel gifts for a hundred others. Through my own challenge I found my PURPOSE and through the ability of helping others I have given birth to Self Reflections. In the comfort of my beautiful space I offer numerous ENERGY HEALING MODALITIES all of which will help enrich the lives of all who commit to finding PURPOSE and PEACE. Do it, it’s worth it! Love, Light & Blessings
Namaste
Paula Perdigao-Rehder

We currently have Five Planets in Retrograde plus today we also experience the Full Moon in Ta**us - it’s a Big Deal!Som...
26/10/2026

We currently have Five Planets in Retrograde plus today we also experience the Full Moon in Ta**us - it’s a Big Deal!

Sometimes life has a way of bringing us face to face with the very things we thought we had already worked through.

The patterns we thought we had broken.
The truths we thought we had accepted.
The relationships we thought we had made peace with.
The parts of ourselves we tucked away because facing them required more courage than we had at the time.

And then, somehow, they find their way back into our awareness.
Not necessarily because we have gone backwards, but because perhaps we are finally ready to see them differently.

Right now, five planets are in retrograde, each carrying its own astrological symbolism around reflection, reassessment and transformation.

And when I look at the bigger picture, I find myself reflecting on how much of this mirrors the human experience.

🪐Neptune asks us to question our illusions.

What have we mistaken for truth simply because we have believed it for so long?

How much of what we believe about ourselves has actually been shaped by the expectations, fears and conditioning of others?

Sometimes awakening begins when we realise that the story we have been living is not necessarily the truth of who we are.

🪐Saturn asks us to take responsibility.

Not for everything that has happened to us, but for what we choose to do with what we have learnt.

We can spend years repeating familiar patterns, hoping that somehow the outcome will be different.
But at some point, awareness has to become a choice.
And choice has to become action.

We cannot build a different future while continuing to make every decision from the beliefs that kept us bound to the past.

🪐Uranus invites us to break free.

To question the rules we inherited.
The expectations we absorbed.
The versions of ourselves we created to belong, to be accepted, to be loved.

There comes a time when fitting into someone else’s definition of who we should be costs us too much of who we actually are.
And perhaps freedom begins when we stop asking for permission to become ourselves.

🪐Venus brings us back to the heart.

To our relationships.
Our values.
Our self-worth.
The ways we give love and the ways we allow ourselves to receive it.

Sometimes the deepest healing happens when we begin to recognise where we have confused love with sacrifice, loyalty with self-abandonment, or forgiveness with the obligation to keep accepting what hurts us.

We can love someone and still recognise that a relationship needs to change.
We can forgive without returning to what we have outgrown.
And we can choose ourselves without making anyone else the villain in our story.

🪐Mercury takes us beneath the surface.

Into the conversations we have avoided, the truths we have struggled to articulate and the thoughts we have been too afraid to examine honestly.

Sometimes the most important conversation we will ever have is the one we finally allow ourselves to have with ourselves.

Without excuses.
Without justification.
Without the need to make our truth more comfortable for someone else.
Just honesty.

🪐And then there is Pluto, which turned direct on 15 October.

In astrological symbolism, Pluto speaks to transformation, endings, power and rebirth.
It brings our attention to what can no longer remain as it was.

Not every ending is a failure.
Not every disruption is a punishment.
And not everything that unsettles us is something we need to fix or return to the way it was.

Sometimes something has to change because we have changed.

And then comes the FULL MOON IN TA**US today.

🌕Ta**us seeks stability, security, comfort and peace.

But with the Sun in Scorpio opposite the Moon, and Pluto adding his own layer, this Full Moon carries a deeper invitation than simply finding comfort in what is familiar.

It asks us to look at what our comfort is built upon.
Is it genuine peace, or merely the absence of confrontation?

Is it stability, or are we holding on to something because the uncertainty of change feels frightening?

Are we nurturing something that allows us to grow, or protecting something that has already served its purpose?

Because there is a difference between feeling comfortable and being at peace.

Sometimes we become so accustomed to a particular way of living, relating and responding that we mistake familiarity for alignment.
We know how to navigate the discomfort because we have lived with it for so long.

But what happens when we begin to recognise that we no longer want to?
What happens when the person we are becoming can no longer make peace with the things the person we were once tolerated?

Perhaps that is where the real work begins.

Not in blaming the past.
Not in fighting every person who has played a part in our story. Who has contributed to our growth.
Not in endlessly searching for answers outside ourselves.

But in becoming willing to see what is ours to heal, what is ours to change, and what is no longer ours to carry.
I believe there comes a point in our evolution when awareness is no longer enough.

We can understand our childhood wounds.
We can identify our conditioning.
We can recognise our patterns and explain exactly where they began.
But understanding a pattern and CHOOSING differently are two very different things.
And this is where our power lies.

In the moment we recognise that although we may not have chosen every experience that shaped us, we can begin choosing how we live from here.
We can stop repeating what we have finally understood.
We can stop abandoning ourselves to preserve a version of peace that was never really peaceful.

We can stop waiting for other people to change before allowing ourselves to move forward.
And we can begin creating a life that reflects who we are becoming, rather than who we had to be.

Perhaps this is what these planetary cycles invite us to consider.
An opportunity to pause, reflect and pay attention to what life is bringing into our awareness.

Because the planets do not have to dictate our choices for astrology to offer us a meaningful mirror.
Sometimes the symbolism simply gives language to something we have already begun to feel.

And perhaps this season is asking us a question we can no longer avoid:
WHAT ARE YOU HOLDING ON TO THAT THE PERSON YOU ATE BECOMING IS READY TO RELEASE?

Not everything that comes to the surface needs to be fought.
🪽Some things need to be understood.
🪽Some things need to be grieved.
🪽Some things need to be forgiven.
🪽Some things need boundaries.
🪽And some things simply need us to stop giving them the power to determine what happens next.

We are not here to spend our lives endlessly revisiting the past. We are here to learn from it, reclaim the parts of ourselves we left behind, and consciously choose what comes next.

Awareness creates choice.
Choice creates movement.
Movement creates transformation.

And perhaps the greatest awakening is not discovering something new about ourselves.
Perhaps it is finally having the courage to live in alignment with what we have known, deep down, for a very long time.

The remembering continues…
One heart at a time.

Let’s explore what life without connection creates in humansFollowing on from the previous post, let’s look at what happ...
25/10/2026

Let’s explore what life without connection creates in humans

Following on from the previous post, let’s look at what happens to a human being when aloneness becomes their normal way of life.

Not the kind of loneliness or aloneness that comes from spending an evening or a month alone.
But the kind that settles into your life when, day after day, there is no one to share it with.

When you are always the one who carries the responsibilities, makes the decisions, solves the problems and keeps everything moving.

When no one thinks to ask whether you need a hand.
When no one notices that you are tired.

When no one sees that behind your capability, your independence and your ability to keep going, there is a human being who would like someone else to take care of them. Someone to make decisions and share the load.

What happens when this becomes your life?

Perhaps, at first, you feel the absence.
You miss the conversations, the laughter, the spontaneous moments, the simple pleasure of having someone beside you.

You reach out. You speak about it.
You try.

You make allowances for other people’s circumstances, their needs and their priorities.
You may even make excuses because doing so justifies something in the conscious mind.

You begin to tell yourself that things will change.
That one day, there will be more time.
More presence.
More connection.

But when that never comes, and your life gets shorter and shorter something begins to shift.

You stop asking. You stop mentioning. You stop speaking.

Not necessarily because you no longer want companionship or support, but because the repeated experience of not having it begins to change what you expect from people.

You become accustomed to making plans alone.
Eating alone. Dancing alone. Walking alone.
Solving everything alone.
Taking on the world without assistance.

At more or less the same time, you also stop sharing the little things because you have learnt that there is no one particularly interested in hearing them. They never stay long enough.

You become more silent. More distant. Less caring.

And …. slowly, the things you once looked forward to begin to lose their place in your own life.

You become super efficient at living.
But you also become detached. You become apathetic.

But in this shift, are you still experiencing the fullness of being alive?
Are you?
Is this all there is for you?
All you deserve?

There is a difference between learning to live independently and learning to expect nothing from anyone.
One can be empowering.
The other can become a quiet resignation.
Because human beings don’t simply need to survive their days.
They need moments that remind them why each day matters.

They need to feel that their presence makes a difference to someone.
That someone thinks of them when they are not there.
That their absence is actually noticed.
That someone cares that they are alone.
That their happiness matters to another.

That when wonderful things happen, there are people they cannot wait to tell because those people would love to know.
That when something painful happens, they don’t have to find the strength to carry it all alone, AGAIN!

Humans need the ordinary things.
The cup of tea offered. The wild flower picked.
Important dates remembered.

The shared meal, or the meal someone else prepared with them in mind.

The spontaneous walk with no particular destination.
The laughter that catches you off guard. The natural lines of a genuine smile.
The light that reflects the souls happiness of being with you.
The conversation that makes you think.
The hand that reaches for yours without being asked.

These moments may seem insignificant.
But they are woven into the fabric of a life that feels shared. These are basic needs for a human.

And what happens when they are missing for too long?

A person may become increasingly self-reliant because there is no alternative.
They may stop expressing their needs because those needs have gone unanswered.

Or they may stop caring for the needs of others.
They may begin to protect their remaining energy by withdrawing from relationships that offer little in return.

They may walk away when what they have to offer is no longer reciprocated.
They may become resentful.
They may lose the anticipation that once made ordinary days feel meaningful.

They may reach a point where the thought of continuing to live the same looping day, in the same looping way, becomes more exhausting than the work itself.
They wake up exhausted, even after a long, restful night’s sleep.

They are perfectly able to carry on, but do they want to?
Carrying on for decade after decade in the loop is all they have been doing. It’s what depletes them.
Leaves the empty to the world outside of them.

And there is a profound difference between a life that requires you to be strong and a life in which you are never allowed to be anything else.

Perhaps one of the greatest losses is not that you become unable to love.
It is that you begin to build a life around the absence of being loved in ways you can feel.

You make room for the emptiness. Aloneness. Silence.
You organise your days around it.

You start to give more to yourself. You begin to find more meaningful ways to fill the vacant spaces within yourself. You may even begin to enjoy it more than you thought.

You stop expecting anyone to fill the spaces that have been empty for so long.
You find that you are quite capable of filling these spaces for yourself, rather well, actually!

So much so that eventually, the people around you may mistake your ability to manage for evidence that you are fine.
They see someone who copes.
Someone who gets things done.
Someone who never seems to need too much.
Someone who’s been content with crumbs.

They don’t see what it has cost you to become that person. They don’t see the moments you would have liked to share, even the crumbs.

They don’t see the things you would have liked to say.
The times you needed someone to stand beside you. The times you were scared. The times you cried alone.

The parts of life that have quietly disappeared from the landscape outside of you because there has been no one with whom to experience it with.

And perhaps this is the cruelest contradiction of all.

The better you become at living without support, the less likely others may be able to recognise that you need it.
You may become more self-centred, too.
Your strength becomes the reason no one thinks to offer you theirs.

And honestly, you don’t care anymore.
You distance yourself.
Your silence becomes evidence that nothing is wrong.

The silence becomes the platform for your own expansion.
Your independence becomes an excuse for their absence.
And your withdrawal becomes an accusation.

Your ability to keep going allows everyone else to carry on as they are, and the gaps of separation become wider.

But just because someone has learnt to live without something does not mean they have stopped needing it.
Just because someone no longer asks does not mean they no longer wish to receive.

Just because someone is quite capable of giving to themselves does not mean they don’t welcome receiving from another.

And just because someone can carry their life alone does not mean they were meant to carry all of it alone.

We talk so much about resilience.
About independence.
About learning to be enough for ourselves.

But perhaps we need to talk more about what happens when a person is required to be their own everything for too long.

Because resilience is not the absence of need.
And independence was never supposed to mean the absence of human connection.

We are not simply here to get through life.
We are here to experience it.
To share it.
To be moved by it.
To find meaning in the moments that cannot be measured by productivity or responsibility.

And sometimes, what a person needs most is not another lesson in strength.
It is a life in which they no longer have to be strong all the time.

A life where someone notices.
Someone asks.
Someone listens.
Someone genuinely cares.
Someone stays.
Someone says, “Come, let’s have a cup of tea.”
And means it.

Because the question is not whether a human being can survive a life without meaningful connection.
Many do.

The question is what that survival slowly asks them to surrender or perhaps invite them to choose a different path instead?

How much of themselves have they had to put aside simply to keep going?
Is that still worth carrying?

At what point does a person stop living the life they want and begin adapting to the life they have learnt to expect?
At what point do they say ‘stop’ to what no longer suits the desires of their soul and the needs of their humanity?

And how would we know, if we have never stopped long enough to ask these questions?
How would we even begin to understand that the way things are may not be healthy?

So my post is for the ones who have experienced the symptoms of aloneness/loneliness/ empty life but have never truly known how to connect the dots.

Remember that being alone if you truly know you, is possibly the best gift life can gift you
If you have you, you are never alone!

Do you know what it feels like to live life without anyone to share it with?To have no one to talk to.No one to walk wit...
23/10/2026

Do you know what it feels like to live life without anyone to share it with?

To have no one to talk to.
No one to walk with.

No one to share a meal with.
No one to offer you a cup of tea.

No one to ask how you are feeling — and be there long enough to truly hear the answer.

Do you know what it feels like to have a tribe but have no one?
To have a partner but be on your own?
To have a partner but live the life of a single parent?
To have a family but never really have them with you?

Do you know what it is like to live in a silent world?

To watch life pass you by with no one to share a thought, a moment, a laugh or a meaningful conversation with?

Do you know what it feels like to have no one beside you when you are vulnerable?
When someone intimidates you.
When life feels heavy.
When, just for once, you wish someone else would stand beside you and help carry the weight.

Do you know what it is like to live in an empty loop where work becomes the only thing that gives your days meaning?
Where love is non-existent.
Where dance and laughter have ceased to show up.
Where words are few.
Where joy has walked on by.
Where there is nothing to look forward to.

Where the days blur into one another, and life becomes a series of responsibilities to fulfil rather than moments to live.

Do you know what such a life creates within a human being?

What happens when there is no one to turn to, no one to lean on, no one to share the ordinary moments with?
When you are always the one who shows up, but rarely the one someone shows up for?

When you become so accustomed to doing everything alone that people forget you might need someone, too?

What happens to the parts of you that were made for connection?
For tenderness.
For belonging.
For being seen, heard and held in someone’s awareness?

What happens when, little by little, you stop expecting these things?
When you stop asking.
Stop reaching.
Stop looking forward to something that never seems to come.

A human being can learn to live without companionship.
But that doesn’t mean they no longer need it.

They can become capable, independent, resourceful and remarkably good at carrying their own life.
But capability is not the same as fulfilment.
Independence is not the same as connection.
And being surrounded by people is not the same as being loved in a way you can actually feel.

But have you ever stopped to consider what happens to a human being when this becomes their reality for long enough?

What does a life without meaningful connection create within us?

What changes when loneliness stops being something we experience from time to time and becomes the very environment in which we live?

What happens to our expectations, our joy, our relationships, and eventually, to the way we experience life itself?

Tomorrow, let’s explore what a life without meaningful connection can create and what it may quietly take away.

✨ HEALING IS A JOURNEY. ✨Healing is a journey through the many layers of emotions we carry within us.Yes, it can be hard...
14/10/2026

✨ HEALING IS A JOURNEY. ✨

Healing is a journey through the many layers of emotions we carry within us.

Yes, it can be hard work.
It can be painful.
It can reopen old wounds and take us into places within ourselves we may not always wish to visit.

Yet, when we begin to move through those layers and emerge on the other side, something extraordinary happens.

We awaken to a whole new world of possibilities — a world where we can begin to walk in our own freedom, stand in our truth and embrace the person we are becoming.

Because the moment you choose YOU, you begin to make space for a different life to choose you back.

✨ Accept your past without regret or judgement.
✨ Live your present with confidence and trust.
✨ Face your future without fear, with a heart increasingly free from the burdens of the past.

And what if the healing you need most is connected to something you have carried for much longer than you realise?

Something inherited.
Something repeated.
Something that may have travelled through generations.

❤️ THE MOTHER WOUND. THE FATHER WOUND.

On 11 November 2026 at 11:11 SAST, I will be launching a deeply personal healing journey for 2027
An 11-month program dedicated to exploring the Mother & Father Wound and consciously choosing what we carry forward.

2027 is about bringing awareness to what you have carried, so you can begin choosing what moves forward.

✨ Eleven months.
✨ Eleven people.
✨ Eleven individual journeys.

And here is something I can share with you already…
Before the official launch, only 9 spaces remain available.

This journey will be offered through individual sessions, both in person and online, making it possible to join me wherever you are in the world.

If something in these words resonates with you, stay close.

Follow me here, on LinkedIn or through Self Reflections Living so you don’t miss the official launch on 11:11.

The invitation is coming.
The spaces are limited.
And perhaps this is where your next chapter begins.

Awareness creates choice.
Choice creates movement.
Movement creates transformation.

💟 Paula at Self Reflections Living
One Mind • One Heart • One Soul

🌞SUN IN ⚖️LIBRA OPPOSES 🪐SATURN IN ♈️ ARIES — 11°I read this message this morning, and every single sentence resonated.S...
04/10/2026

🌞SUN IN ⚖️LIBRA OPPOSES 🪐SATURN IN ♈️ ARIES — 11°

I read this message this morning, and every single sentence resonated.

Sometimes a message arrives at precisely the moment we are ready to hear it and that’s what spoke loudly to me around the need to share it, UNCHANGED

Sometime what feels heavy may be showing you where your soul is ready to become stronger.

Message by Planetary Oracle:

On October 4, you may feel called to look more deeply at what you are carrying, what you are tolerating, and what no longer feels aligned with your truth.

Libra wants connection, harmony, and reciprocity, while Saturn in Aries reminds you that peace means very little if you have to abandon yourself to keep it.

Pay attention to the synchronicities revealing where you need stronger boundaries, clearer choices, or greater self-respect.

This is not about closing your heart.

It is about becoming more embodied in your truth.

Some relationships, commitments, and old timelines may feel heavier because your soul is no longer meant to meet them in the same way.

Trust what is becoming clear.

Sometimes the next step is not about becoming someone new —

it is about finally refusing to negotiate with what your soul already knows.

My taking on it :

Perhaps this is the invitation of this Libra–Aries opposition:

To honour both peace and selfhood.
To understand that harmony does not require self-abandonment.
And to recognise that sometimes the clearest answer is the one our soul has been quietly giving us all along.

An added extra for those who don’t speak astrology:

🌞The Sun in ⚖️ Libra represents our sense of self, identity and the way we seek balance, harmony, connection and fairness.

🪐Saturn in ♈️ Aries represents responsibility, boundaries, maturity and the courage to stand firmly in our own identity.

↕️ An opposition is an energetic tension between two opposing points — not necessarily a conflict, but an invitation to find balance between them.

In simple terms:
How do I honour my relationships and desire for peace without abandoning myself, my boundaries or what I know to be true?
This is the beautiful tension between 👥 “we” and 👤“I.”

URANUS is in RETROGRADE (Rx)It will spend its entire retrograde journey in GEMINI.This becomes like an UNEXPECTED MIRROR...
01/10/2026

URANUS is in RETROGRADE (Rx)
It will spend its entire retrograde journey in GEMINI.

This becomes like an UNEXPECTED MIRROR in your life.

Uranus Rx in Gemini has a remarkable way of catching you by surprise.
For those unfamiliar with the gifts of the planets, Uranus is the planet of the unexpected.

The interruption.
The disruption.
The sudden shift.
The moment that makes you stop and say:

“Wait… what the bleep just happened?”

And in Gemini, the territory becomes even more interesting.

Gemini speaks to communication, perception, information and the way a story can exist from two very different perspectives.

What is said.
What is heard.

What is meant.
What is perceived.

And sometimes those four things are nowhere near the same place.

This is where Uranus Rx becomes particularly fascinating.

When Uranus turns retrograde, that electric, disruptive energy turns inward.

Rather than simply changing what is happening around you, it encourages you to examine what is happening within you.

How can you grow from it?

What is it showing you about yourself?

What is it showing you about others?

Your communication patterns…

And what you may be accepting from another person’s way of communicating.

What is it saying?

Your assumptions…

Or the assumptions of others that are being turned against you.

Why is this happening?

Your interpretations of what is being communicated.

Are you misinterpreting?

Or is the other person?

The stories you have been carrying.

How long do you want to carry them for?

And perhaps most importantly…

the patterns you keep repeating.

Patterns are there to point arrows in the direction of what must change — or risk becoming destructive.

Sometimes the most uncomfortable realisation is discovering that two people can walk away from exactly the same conversation carrying two completely different experiences of what happened.

Neither person necessarily intended the outcome.

Neither person necessarily saw it coming.

And yet…
there it is.

The unexpected mirror. Uranus Rx. 🪐

Perhaps the way something is misunderstood is truly your soul showing you a place that needs deeper healing.

Not because the misunderstanding is necessarily the truth…
but because your reaction to it may reveal something worth looking at.

Uranus doesn’t always offer a gentle invitation.
Sometimes he simply pulls the rug.
SURPRISE!!!!

And suddenly you are looking at something you weren’t planning to look at.

But perhaps something that is no longer meant to be ignored.

THE RETROGRADE INVITATION

What are you actually choosing?

Are you choosing to follow the pattern, or are you going to allow Saturn Rx to bring the discipline required to invite the needed change?

What do you want to continue?

What do you want to place deeper boundaries around?

What are you ready to release?

Yes, sometimes you have to let go of what brings you discomfort.

What has become stale through the ages.

What freedom are you seeking?

Is it the freedom to simply live in peace?

The freedom to be who you truly are?

And what part of an old story are you still holding simply because it has become familiar?

Or are you scared to accept the transformation Pluto Rx offers because you fear disruption?

Pluto Rx in Aquarius asks you to look toward transformation and greater freedom.

Transforming what doesn’t work anymore is the only way you will get there.

Where does that freedom begin?

Somewhere deep inside you, you already know the answer to this question.

Perhaps it isn’t outside of you that you will find it.

Hence why it has not been found.

Perhaps it is sitting deep in the murky waters of the shadows within.

So NEPTUNE RX invites you to LOOK AGAIN
Neptune Rx asks you to look again at the illusions.
At the picture you thought you understood.
At the places where perception may have softened, distorted or romanticised what was actually there.

Don’t be fooled by the illusion that Neptune Rx brings to the table.

Look deeper.
Dive into the underworld of Scorpio’s playground.

Venus visiting Scorpio brings illumination into the deeper shadows that you may not have yet seen.

Not necessarily to expose something ugly…
but to allow you to see what has been hidden beneath the surface.

Those Uranian rose-tinted glasses need to be removed if you are going to see clearly into the underworld of the shadow.

Perhaps this is one of the gifts of retrograde energy:

To revise.
To look again.
To look deeper.
To reconsider.
To reframe.
To feel.
To question.
To choose differently if you discover that you need to.

It’s like a cosmic spring cleaning of sorts.

And sometimes…
it is a very difficult spring cleaning.

But if Chiron Rx is asking you to turn toward the wound within the self, perhaps the discomfort is not the destination.
Perhaps it is simply the doorway.

Don’t be scared. Open the door. Walk through it.
And then … THE UNEXPECTED can happen.

Here is the beautiful part.

The unexpected doesn’t always have to be difficult.
Sometimes the unexpected is magnificent.

There is a flower growing in my garden that I never planted.
I don’t know where it came from.

Perhaps a dormant seed was carried into the fertile soil of another plant and simply waited for the right conditions to emerge.

And suddenly…
there it is.

Unexpected.
Unplanned.
Beautiful.
Welcomed. 🌸

A perfect little reminder that not everything that surprises you is here to disrupt you.

Some surprises arrive carrying gifts.
Some arrive carrying questions.
Some arrive carrying mirrors.

And some simply arrive to show you that life still has the capacity to create something you never imagined.

So perhaps, while Uranus Rx in Gemini continues its journey through 8 February 2027, you can become a little more curious about the unexpected.

Before deciding what it means.
Before deciding who is right.
Before deciding that something has gone wrong.

Perhaps pause.
Listen.
Feel.
Reflect.
And allow the story to reveal a little more of itself.

Because sometimes the thing that catches you completely off guard…
is exactly what opens the door to something you could never have seen coming.

The unexpected is not always the disruption.
Sometimes, it is the beginning.

So much love
Paula 🤍

Life is such a strange and precious thing. Such a paradox.We speak about it as though we have so much of it.We move thro...
19/09/2026

Life is such a strange and precious thing.
Such a paradox.
We speak about it as though we have so much of it.

We move through our days believing, without really thinking about it, that there will be more.

More mornings.
More conversations.
More laughter.
More time.

Believing there will be
Tomorrow.
Next week.
Next year.

So we plan for next week, next month, next year…
as though time belongs to us.

We make these plans.
We postpone conversations.
We assume there will be another opportunity to say you care, to make peace, to laugh together, to simply be present.

And yet, none of us truly knows how long our invitation to this life will last.
Because in a single moment, everything can change.

Sometimes it takes the sudden loss of a dear one, someone whose life has touched our own in some way or another, to remind us just how fragile this beautiful existence really is.

We are here for such a remarkably short moment, and in a short moment of that time, everything can change.

A handful of years.
A collection of ordinary days.
Thousands of little moments that we often rush through without noticing.

Perhaps in moments of loss and tragedy, life isn’t asking us to accomplish more, but instead to be here — consciously and present to it.

It asks us to…

Notice the morning light.
Cherish the people beside us.
Say the words while we still can.
Love without assuming there will always be another chance.
Make the ordinary moments matter.
And extend gratitude for the moments that we do have.

To remind us that life is not promised to us in years, months or even tomorrow.
It’s not even offered to us in hours.

Because one day, there will be a last conversation, a last embrace, a last laugh…

And we will never know which moment it is while we are living it, because none of us truly knows how much time we have.

Life is given to us only in the now.
Life is fragile.
Life is fleeting.
And somehow, in all of that uncertainty, it is also incredibly beautiful.

Life is precious.
Life is now.

We are given this life for such a short while.
May we remember to actually live it.

Living life moment by moment

Paula ✨

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