30/10/2026
Mamas who hold, rock and feed their babies to sleep are often told they’re “spoiling them”, “making a rod for their own back” or “creating bad habits”. 🙄🙅🏼♀️
Let’s set the record straight, shall we? 👇🏼
❌ These comments aren’t just unhelpful and hurtful. They can also leave mothers questioning their instincts and feeling pressured to go against what feels natural when caring for their newborn.
💣 HERE’S THE TRUTH: IT IS BIOLOGICALLY NORMAL FOR YOUR BABY TO WANT TO BE CLOSE TO YOU.
Think about it. For months, your baby was kept warm inside your body, constantly surrounded by movement, listening to your heartbeat and having their needs met without ever having to ask.
Then, suddenly, they’re in a big, unfamiliar world. Of course they seek comfort in your arms, your warmth, your smell and the familiar rhythm of your heartbeat. ❤️
For many babies, being cuddled, rocked or fed to sleep is a completely normal part of early infancy.
👶🏼 When I work with parents of babies under five months, I often see a mismatch between what they EXPECT their baby’s sleep to look like and what is actually DEVELOPMENTALLY NORMAL.
When we understand what’s normal, we can start to:
✨ Feel less frustrated by short naps and frequent waking.
✨ Understand why our baby might resist sleeping independently in a bassinet or cot.
✨ Let go of the pressure to establish perfect sleep habits from the very beginning.
✨ Respond to our baby’s needs with more confidence and less guilt.
💚 Sleep is a developmental process. It cannot be rushed or forced.
Save this post for the next time someone makes you question your instincts, and share it with a mama who needs this reminder. 🫶🏼