Cheryle Cote Holistic Healing

10/17/2026

A Question I Often Ask Someone Who Says, “I Know I Can Do This…”
If you know you can do something, but something still seems to get in the way, I might ask:
“What happens inside you when you imagine actually doing it?”
The answer can be revealing.
Perhaps there is excitement.
Perhaps there is doubt.
Perhaps there is a very specific fear.
Perhaps there is simply an uncomfortable feeling that is difficult to put into words.
That internal response is worth paying attention to.
We can spend a great deal of time trying to push ourselves past uncomfortable feelings.
Sometimes it is more useful to become curious about them.
Curiosity can take us somewhere that criticism and self-pressure cannot.

10/16/2026

Our past can affect our confidence today.

10/15/2026

Why Confidence Can Be Difficult to “Think” Yourself Into
You can tell yourself:
“I am confident.”
“I know what I'm doing.”
“I shouldn't be nervous.”
Sometimes that helps.
Sometimes it doesn't.
There is a reason positive statements don't always override an old internal response.
The conscious mind can have one opinion while deeply established patterns continue to produce another response.
That doesn't mean the pattern cannot change.
It means we may need to work with something deeper than simply repeating a sentence.
This is one of the reasons I became so interested in clinical hypnotherapy.
The mind is not as simple as think differently and everything changes.
But it is remarkably capable of change when we understand how it works.

10/14/2026

Self Confidence vs Self Doubt

10/13/2026

Confidence Isn't Always What It Looks Like
Confidence isn't necessarily being the loudest person in the room.
It isn't always certainty.
And it certainly isn't the absence of doubt.
Some of the most capable people I've worked with have quietly questioned themselves despite having years of evidence that they are competent.
They may lead meetings, manage people, make difficult decisions and accomplish extraordinary things.
Yet internally, they may still be waiting to feel as confident as everyone else assumes they are.
Real confidence is much more interesting than an impressive exterior.
It has something to do with trusting yourself when the outcome isn't guaranteed.
That's an area where hypnotherapy can offer an interesting avenue for exploration.

10/13/2026

Hypnotherapy can help you to feel genuine confidence.

10/10/2026

The Patterns We Don't Know We're Running
Some patterns are obvious.
Others are so familiar that we don't recognize them as patterns at all.
The way we respond to criticism.
The way we react when we're under pressure.
The tendency to over-prepare.
The need to get everything exactly right.
The habit of saying yes when we really mean no.
The assumption that we must handle everything ourselves.
We often notice these things only when they begin getting in the way.
One of the fascinating aspects of working with people is discovering just how much of our day-to-day experience is shaped by patterns we developed long ago.
Awareness doesn't automatically change a pattern.
But it gives us somewhere to begin.

10/09/2026

10/08/2026

Why Willpower Isn't Always the Answer
“I just need more willpower.”
I've heard variations of this many times over the years.
But if willpower alone solved every unwanted habit or recurring pattern, none of us would have much difficulty changing anything.
Willpower is useful.
It simply isn't the whole story.
When a pattern has become deeply established, continually fighting it can become exhausting.
I am interested in a different question:
What created the pattern in the first place, and what keeps it in place now?
Understanding the pattern can change the conversation from “Why can't I make myself do this?” to “What is actually happening here?”
That is often a much more productive place to begin.

10/07/2026

So many people self sabotage...