11/02/2026
Fall is not only a time of harvest, but a time of clean up. A time to resolve. A time to deeply connect to exactly what is.
There are so many times we overlook the conversation we need to have, or the standard we are not upholding, or the dream we refuse to acknowledge and pursue.
Without investigation, we accept our status quo of what seems easiest at the time.
But maybe that comes at costs that aren't being accounted for.
Maybe, just maybe, those costs are way more than we think.
Take something simple like NOT having the conversation with a spouse, partner or even an employee or employer.
In the moment, meh, it's easier just to go have lunch, or flick on the T.V., or scroll your phone, or call a friend.
And while this goes on, let's quickly look at the cost of doing so.
- Emotional energy: The ongoing drain of frustration, resentment or disappointment.
- Connection: Less intimacy, affection, trust and meaningful conversation.
- Self-worth: Teaching yourself that your needs, feelings or desires don't matter.
- Peace of mind: The background chatter that keeps taking up space in your mind.
And perhaps the greatest cost of all?
You become so accustomed to paying these costs that you stop recognizing you're paying them.
What was once unacceptable becomes tolerable. What was once tolerable becomes normal.
What have you been tolerating that is costing you more than you've realized?
Read the full reflection here:
https://www.stevenfonso.com/post/fall-is-not-a-time-to-settle-its-a-time-to-settle-it