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BACP Registered Counsellor 🌻
Mental health support for life's heavy days
Online therapy for adults & couples • Books • Resources • Education

I am a qualified Psychotherapist / Counsellor offering sessions at locations across Yorkshire and online via teams. Choosing a therapist can feel like a minefield, firstly, ask yourself, what has brought you to therapy? There is no right or wrong answer, perhaps you have faced an adverse event in your life or perhaps you are finding yourself feeling low and you don't know why. Secondly consider, what would you like to achieve from therapy? For some people this is to feel happier, more content, stronger, more confident, or perhaps you just feel you need someone to talk to that will just listen. I work in an integrative way, this means that I have an array of skills and tools that I can draw upon during our sessions to help my clients to process and reflect in a way that works best for you. I put my clients at the forefront of what I do, your therapy journey is about you, thats why I offer a free consultation so we can get to know eachother, you can decide if im the therapist for you and I can get to know more details about you to help you get the most out of therapy. I am registered with the BACP and adhere to their guidelines and ethics. Therapy changes lives, change yours today.

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I offer discounts for the following:
Blue light
Low income
Veterans
Students

Please contact me for further information. If you are in need of immediate mental health support:
Samaritans - 116123
Text SHOUT to 85258
NHS - https://www.nhs.uk/service-search/mental-health/find-an-urgent-mental-health-helpline

In case of emergency dial 999

01/11/2026

I've been thinking about this a lot lately.

Because I hear this from so many people, and honestly, I've been there too.

You finally have a moment to yourself. No urgent tasks, no one needs anything from you, the to-do list is (sort of) under control. You should be able to relax.

But instead, your brain is racing. You're thinking about everything you haven't done yet.

Or you sit down to watch something, and within five minutes you're scrolling your phone because sitting still feels impossible.

Or you try to read a book, but you keep reading the same sentence over and over because your mind is somewhere else entirely.

It's like your brain has forgotten how to actually rest, even when you desperately need it to.

And then you feel frustrated with yourself because you know you need this time, but you can't seem to let yourself have it.

Here's what I think happens: when you've been running on stress and adrenaline for a long time, your nervous system gets used to that state. It starts to feel normal. So when you finally stop, your body doesn't recognise it as time to relax.

I'd love to know if this resonates with you, or if you've found anything that helps.

Comment 'same' if this is you right now, or tell me what happens when you try to rest. I read everything, and honestly, sometimes just knowing you're not the only one makes it feel a bit more manageable. 💚

31/10/2026

Anxiety isn't actually about caring. It's about how your nervous system is responding to what's happening around you and inside you.

Here's what's actually going on when you're feeling anxious:

❌ don't think: I'm anxious because I care too much
✅ do understand: your brain is picking up on something it perceives as a threat, even if logically you know you're safe right now

❌ don't think: if I just cared less, I'd feel better
✅ do understand: your nervous system is in a heightened state, and telling yourself to care less won't change that physiological response

❌ don't think: I need to stop worrying
✅ do understand: you can work on regulating your nervous system responses

❌ don't think: this means something's wrong with me
✅ do understand: anxiety is your body's alarm system signalling, not a reflection of your worth

❌ don't think: I should just relax and it'll go away
✅ do understand: you need practical tools to help your nervous system feel safer, not just positive thinking

It's something that you can work with in a way that actually helps.

Comment TOOLS and I'll send you something practical that might make this feel a bit more manageable. 💚

30/10/2026

Because sometimes the loop isn't about the thing itself. It's about what the thing is making you feel that you don't quite know how to process.

You're circling around the discomfort, the disappointment, the hurt or the frustration that you haven't given yourself permission to name.

And your brain does this clever thing where it makes you think you're being productive, like if you just think about it enough you'll solve it. But really, you're just trying to think your way out of feeling it.

I see this so often. Someone will say 'I can't stop overthinking this situation' and when we dig in, the thinking isn't the problem. It's that underneath all that thinking is an emotion they haven't been able to sit with.

So if you're stuck in a loop right now, ask yourself: am I thinking about this, or am I avoiding what this is making me feel?

Because once you name the feeling, the loop usually loses its power.

You don't have to fix the feeling or make it go away. You just have to acknowledge it's there. 💚

29/10/2026

Here's what actually works when writing things down makes you want to throw your phone across the room:

1. Brain dump into voice notes instead of writing
just talk. Say everything that's swirling around out loud into a voice note. You don't have to listen back just getting it out of your head is what counts.

2. Pick the one thing that would make today feel less awful
not the most important thing. Not the most urgent thing. The thing that, if you did it, would give you a tiny bit of breathing room. Maybe it's emptying the dishwasher. Maybe it's replying to one email. That's enough.

3. Move your body for five minutes
Walk around your house. Shake your arms out. Dance badly to one song. It sounds too simple to work, but it does.

4. Set a timer and do absolutely nothing
five minutes. Sit there. Stare at the wall. Let your brain be bored. No scrolling, no fixing, no productive pausing. Just nothing. It's not wasting time, it's giving your brain a chance to reset.

You don't have to do all four. You don't even have to do them perfectly.

Just try one, and see if it makes today feel a bit more manageable.

Because you don't need another system. You need permission to do what actually helps. 💚

save this for the next time your brain refuses to cooperate with your to-do list.

28/10/2026

I made this worksheet because I kept seeing the same thing happen.

Someone would sit down to 'get organised' or 'sort their head out', and within about five minutes they'd be stuck.

Not because they weren't trying. Because their brain was trying to process everything at once, and it was completely overwhelming.

So here's what's actually inside the brain dump worksheet, and what each part helps you do.

It's not a magic fix. But it's a practical tool that helps you stop spinning and start making sense of what's in your head.

Grab the worksheet on etsy - https://linktr.ee/FutureAims

27/10/2026

You know that thing you've been putting off for days (or weeks, or… let's not talk about it)?

Maybe it's a phone call you need to make, a conversation you've been avoiding, or a task that should take 10 minutes but somehow feels impossible.

And every time you think about it, you feel that familiar weight in your chest. So you scroll, you clean, you suddenly develop an urgent need to reorganise your entire kitchen.

Then you beat yourself up for being lazy.

But here's the thing, procrastination isn't about being lazy or unmotivated.

It's often your nervous system saying 'this feels too big right now' or 'I don't have the emotional capacity for this yet'.

Maybe the task is linked to something uncomfortable. Maybe you're worried about getting it wrong. Maybe you're already carrying so much that one more thing genuinely feels overwhelming.

Your brain is trying to protect you from stress, judgment, failure or discomfort. It's not helpful, but it makes sense.

So instead of arguing with yourself about why you should just do the thing, try asking yourself what's actually making it feel hard.

Because understanding what's going on doesn't mean you're making excuses. It means you're working out what you actually need. 💚

save this if you needed the reminder that you're not broken, you're human.

26/10/2026

The difference matters. You can make your own decisions and still need someone to talk things through with. Support doesn't have to mean handing over control of your life.

If you're carrying the plans, the worries, and the never-ending to-do list, asking for help can be specific: “Could you take this task off my plate?” or “Can you listen while I work this out?” You don't have to explain everything at once.

Save this for the days when asking for support feels like admitting defeat.

25/10/2026

The mental load you're carrying isn't visible to anyone else. But it's real.

And here's what makes it so exhausting: you're not just managing tasks. You're holding:

→ The running list of what needs doing
→ The decisions no one else is tracking
→ The follow-through on everything half-started
→ The emotional labor of keeping it all moving
→ The constant mental sorting of what comes next

That invisible weight? It shows up as:

• Lying awake replaying your to-do list
• Feeling frozen when you finally have time
• Struggling to prioritize when everything feels urgent
• Exhaustion that doesn't match what you 'got done'

You're not failing. You're carrying a load that was never meant to be invisible.

If this sounds like you grab your free 60-Second reset here: https://payhip.com/b/7kLPv

25/10/2026

You've checked three different tabs, scrolled Instagram twice, made a cup of tea you forgot to drink, and somehow ended up researching something that has nothing to do with anything you actually need to do today.

And now you're sat there feeling guilty, frustrated, and wondering why you can't just get on with things like a normal person.

If you're tired of feeling stuck in this cycle, I've put together a resource that breaks it down and helps you move forward.

Comment UNSTUCK and I'll send it over. 💚

24/10/2026

Ever feel like you somehow missed the day in school where everyone else learned how to sit down without immediately thinking about seventeen things that need doing?

When you finally sit down to watch something, and your brain starts listing all the reasons you shouldn't be doing this right now. The washing. The emails. That thing you said you'd do three days ago.

And then the guilt kicks in, which makes it even harder to actually relax, you end up feeling guilty about feeling guilty.

Fun times. 😅

but here's the thing I've realised through working with hundreds of people who feel exactly the same way.

Relaxing without guilt isn't something you're either naturally good at or forever terrible at.

It's a skill. And like any skill, you can build it.

Nobody expects to sit down at a piano for the first time and play a symphony. But for some reason, we expect ourselves to be able to switch off our brains instantly after years of training them to constantly scan for problems and keep everyone else happy.

Your brain has learned that staying alert and feeling responsible equals safety. That's not a character flaw, that's just how it's been wired.

But you can rewire it.

Not overnight. Not with one bubble bath or one meditation app.

But gradually, by practising small moments of rest without immediately jumping up to fix something. By noticing the guilt when it shows up and not treating it as proof that you shouldn't be resting. By giving yourself permission to be unavailable for just ten minutes without the world ending.

It feels awkward at first. Like you're doing something wrong.

That's normal. That's just your brain doing what it's always done.

But the more you practise, the easier it gets. And eventually, sitting down without your brain immediately listing your failures becomes something you can actually do.

You just haven't been taught that rest is something you're allowed to get better at. 💚

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