18/10/2026
I understood health as a doctor.
Losing my parents just over a year apart changed what it meant to me.
I didn’t suddenly become wiser.
But some old beliefs no longer made sense.
1. I stopped waiting for life to calm down.
Work, children, a quieter season, i always had a reason to wait. Now I look after myself in the middle of real life, not after it.
2. I started training for independence, not appearance.
My mum fractured her spine from osteoporosis. Then I discovered I had osteopenia too. Strength training became about protecting my future, not changing how I looked.
3. I stopped treating friendship as optional.
My weekly swim isn’t really about swimming. It’s connection, laughter and a reminder that I don’t have to carry everything alone.
4. I stopped assuming there would be another chance.
This year, I’ve said yes to speaking opportunities I might once have avoided. I still get nervous. But I don’t want fear making the decision.
5. I stopped confusing living longer with living well.
Health isn’t only about more years. It’s about having the strength, energy and connection to live them fully.
If you’re learning to look after your health in the middle of real life too, follow along.