30/10/2026
๐๐ป๐๐ค๐ง๐๐จ ๐ค๐ ๐ฌ๐๐จ๐๐ค๐ข ๐๐ง๐ค๐ข ๐ ๐๐๐๐ง๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ง ๐ฅ๐ก๐๐ฎ๐๐ ๐๐ฎ ๐ ๐ข๐๐ฃ ๐ฌ๐๐ค ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐จ๐ช๐๐ ๐ฅ๐๐๐ฃ ๐๐ป
We donโt choose pain. Not as children and rarely consciously as adults.
When we experience pain as children and that pain is not seen nor supported by those around us, we adapt.
We donโt get to emerge as a fully functioning and internally healthy individual.
Whether we blame ourselves, believe weโre bad or stuff down who we really are to survive, there comes a point where the pain and the adaptation catches up. And that is when we have to face the pain.
People will DISTRACT themselves from pain and even build a whole false personality and lifestyle around it just to avoid feeling it.
Some will become addicts (coping), some will be driven to extreme success and perfectionism.
Some will have OCD, eating disorders and anxiety.
Some will chase relationships with people that feel like the parents who didnโt support their pain in the hope theyโll finally experience a different ending.
Others will even set up a wellness business/offering so they can save/help others in the way they themselves really needโฆand all of these are ways of avoiding feeling the pain.
When you can finally face the pain, you find your power, you find YOU.
RIP Patrick Stewart, a man who watched his mother be beaten, who faced that pain and turned it into gentle power and joy โค๏ธ