From Past To Purpose

31/10/2026

31/10/2026

One small mistake at work. One old voice saying, ‘I can’t do anything right.’ Sound familiar?

You left. You know what happened. So why do you still doubt yourself?

Why does a small mistake at work feel like proof you can’t do anything right?
Why does saying no leave you feeling guilty?
Why does a cancelled plan make you wonder if you matter?

It isn’t weakness. It isn’t “being too sensitive”. And you haven’t failed at moving on.

Tomorrow night I’m hosting a free live masterclass: Breaking Free from the Past - Why You Still Doubt Yourself & How to Start Choosing Differently

In one hour, you’ll learn:

✨ Why self-trust can feel so hard even after you’re safe
✨ A simple “then or now?” question that helps in the moment
✨ An easy private tool, the Pause Map, that you can use straight away

📅 Sunday 1 November
🕖 7–8pm
💻 Live on Zoom (recorded)

There’s no pressure to share anything. You can listen quietly, keep your camera off, and take what helps.

If you’ve ever thought “I understand what happened, so why do I still feel like this?”, this is for you.

DM BREAKING FREE for the registration link.

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31/10/2026

Witch, please… it’s time to stop letting the past rule your life! 🧙‍♀️

You’ve left the relationship, but you might still catch yourself questioning your choices, expecting someone else’s reaction or wondering if you’re the problem.

Those patterns don’t define you - and you don’t have to keep living by rules that were never yours to choose.

You’re invited to my free webinar, Breaking Free From The Past: Why You Still Doubt Yourself & How to Start Choosing Differently. We’ll explore how past conditioning can influence the decisions you make today, and how to begin choosing in a way that feels more like you.

Sunday 1 November, 19:00–20:00 UK
Join live or watch the recording.

Click the link in my bio to register for free! 🩷

31/10/2026

“That wasn’t like me.” How many times have you said that since you left?

You snapped over something small. Or you went silent, shut down, got defensive. And afterwards the shame arrives: who am I now?

Those reactions didn’t come from nowhere. They began as protection. They once kept you safe, and part of you is still guarding against a danger that has passed.

You’re not a difficult person. You’re a person whose protection hasn’t yet been told it can stand down.

And you don’t need to find the old you. You can build who you choose to be next.
It starts with understanding what drives the old reaction.

That’s the heart of my free webinar, Breaking Free from the Past: Why You Still Doubt Yourself & How to Start Choosing Differently.

Click the link in my bio to register your place for free.

31/10/2026

Sometimes the scariest thing isn’t the silence. It’s the voices you hear inside it.

“You're so over-sensitive”
“You’re being selfish.”
“You can’t trust your judgement.”
"Nobody loves you."

After abuse, those old messages can stay with you long after the relationship has ended. You might find yourself questioning what you remember, dismissing what you feel or changing your mind because you’re worried you’ve got it wrong.

That voice can sound like your own - but it doesn’t mean it tells the truth about you.

Learning to recognise where those doubts came from is part of finding your way back to your own judgement. You deserve to make choices without hearing old criticism in the background.

Join my free webinar, Breaking Free From The Past: Why You Still Doubt Yourself & How to Start Choosing Differently, on Sunday 1 November, 19:00–20:00 UK

Join live or watch the recording.

Click the link in my bio to register for free.

31/10/2026

The house is quiet. Nobody’s angry. Nothing is wrong. And you’re waiting for the change...

If peace makes you uneasy, please hear this: there is nothing wrong with you.

When you’ve lived somewhere you had to stay alert, your mind and body learn that quiet moments are when you keep watching. So now, in calm, you don’t relax. You scan.

That can make it hard to trust good things, and even harder to trust yourself to know what is safe.

This isn’t you being ungrateful or broken. It’s a lesson you learned for very good reasons, and what was learned can be gently unlearned.

In my free webinar, Breaking Free from the Past: Why You Still Doubt Yourself & How to Start Choosing Differently, I’ll share where to begin.

Click the link in my bio to reserve your place for free.

29/10/2026

You’ve left them. But your mind is still walking on eggshells.

“Do they really like me?”
“Have I said something wrong?”
“Can I trust them?”
“What if they’re just pretending?”

A reply takes longer than usual, and you replay your last conversation.

Someone seems quieter, and you wonder what you’ve done.

You’ve had a lovely time with someone… then spend the evening questioning whether they actually enjoyed being with you.

Because someone who was supposed to love you gave you reasons to question their words, their intentions - and eventually your own judgement.

Now, you find yourself looking for the catch. Running through worst-case scenarios. Trying to work out what could go wrong before it happens.

That constant second-guessing is exhausting. Especially when you want to let people in, but you’re frightened of getting hurt again.

You don’t have to force yourself to trust everyone. You deserve time to notice whether someone’s actions match their words, whether they respect your boundaries, and how they treat you over time.

And you deserve to rebuild trust in yourself - to know you can notice when something feels wrong, ask questions and decide what happens next.

That’s part of the work we do in From Past To Purpose®: understanding the patterns abuse has left behind and practising new ways of responding, so the past stops making your choices for you.

Message BREAKING FREE to join my free webinar 🩷

29/10/2026

Today, I spoke about one of my fave subjects - conditioning and how it can influence our beliefs, decisions, and behaviour, and how Imposter Syndrome can become a result of that.

Thank you and the rest of the at Kendal for a great discussion!

28/10/2026

If peace makes you uneasy, please hear this: there is nothing wrong with you.

When you’ve lived somewhere you had to stay alert, your mind and body learn that quiet moments are when you keep watching.

So now, in calm, you don’t relax. You scan.

That can make it hard to trust good things, and even harder to trust yourself to know what is safe.
This isn’t you being ungrateful or broken. It’s a lesson you learned for very good reasons, and what was learned can be gently unlearned.

In my free webinar, Breaking Free from the Past: Why You Still Doubt Yourself & How to Start Choosing Differently, I’ll share where to begin.

Click the link to register your place for free:
https://tr.ee/5jd2flaSjB

Sunday 1st November
7pm
Online - join live or watch the recording

28/10/2026

You’re free to make your own choices now. So why can choosing something as simple as what to say, what to wear or how to spend your time still feel so complicated?

Because after abuse, you can leave the relationship and still find yourself checking your choices against old rules:

“Will this upset someone?”
“Am I being selfish?”
“Have I got this wrong?”

That doesn’t mean you’re incapable of moving forward. It means you’ve spent a long time adapting to someone else’s reactions. You deserve the chance to understand those patterns and start making choices that feel like yours again.

Join my free webinar, Breaking Free From The Past: Why You Still Doubt Yourself & How to Start Choosing Differently.

We’ll explore how past conditioning can shape your decisions today - and how to begin finding your own way forward.

Sunday 1 November, 19:00–20:00 UK - join live or watch the recording.

Register your free place - click the link in the bio at the top of my profile ⬆️