10/26/2026
Real lasting change in trauma healing requires more than learning to down regulate yourself from anxiety. It’s about safely going through the eye of the needle. It’s about building capacity to feel MORE uncomfortable sensation, more emotions, more scary charge in the body - while remaining contained in your body and safe with another.
This is where the nervous system says oh, I’m actually going to survive this. I’m okay. I’m more than okay - I’m fully alive, deeply connected here IN myself.
This requires vulnerability and courage to go toward what hurts, feels scary, what once wasn’t safe to feel - and to be witnessed and safely held in that.
I tend to think of it as really very simple actually. It’s as simple as the connection of human touch when you are hurting, someone physically holding your body so you can feel physically and emotionally contained, connected, safe - with another human. Not alone in it. This is where the body can return to real embodied safety.
When we simply weren’t attuned to in our difficult emotions, when we felt afraid and alone, when we were emotionally or physically unsafe with those around us - we had to learn to stuff it down and hold ourselves through it.
This is the self containment of the tension in your shoulders, the tension in your jaw, the self holding pain in your back and the vigilance in your neck.
This is the anxiety in your belly as fight/flight response and your numbing and dissociation as freeze response.
These patterns become our unconscious survival identity and you don’t have to live this way. It can take time - but your embodied aliveness is on the other side.
I’m now offering Clarity Breathwork along with Craniosacral Therapy and Somatic Experiencing. My ideal client knows their patterns, is self aware and is ready to do transformative somatic work. I love holding humans in their full spectrum depth. I’ll be moving my office to SLO soon to better serve my community. If this resonates check out my website at embodiedlifetherapy.com
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